TO THE GIRL WHO'S NEVER HAD A BOYFRIEND (2023)

Introduction

spoiler alert: you are worth more than your relationship status, and no matter what God loves you

hi, i'm 27 years old and i've never had boyfriend. yet i'm doing perfectly fine and living my best life!!

Update:
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Content

Hi, my name is Naomi I'm, 27 years old and I have never had a boyfriend or been in a relationship or been on a date, and the reason why I'm putting is super embarrassing, at least according to society standards fact on the Internet is because I know that there are a lot of girls or probably in the same position as me.

You know, maybe not as old as me, but the girls who've never had a boyfriend I think that there's something wrong with them because of it.

I'm here to tell you that there is literally nothing wrong with you and to share my story in hopes that I'll give you hope and comfort and just a disclaimer of my faith paint.

My faith plays a huge part in this.

So yes, and maybe talk about God, Jesus and I'm- not here to convert you but just be honest.

But what has got me to this level of peace that I'm at and hope for the future, because I, it's just insane how I went from like crying myself to sleep every night to right now, like thriving, literally living, my best life and not being worried or caring? What other people think of me or the fact that yes, I'm single and I happened for my entire freakin life, so um yeah, so I guess we can start with this story so growing up.

You know, I had crushes on boys and always loved rom-com movies, and so when I was in high school I was like this is it this is when I'm going to have that amazing romance where I'm the shy quiet girl who the school jock notices? Finally, after three years and hates you, no, no that didn't happen.

So I went four years without a boyfriend went to prom by myself.

Literally I was like the to force.

I was the seventh wheel at my prom table like there was an empty seat beside me.

It's pretty sad now that I think about it, but I lived to tell the tale, and so then you know I was like hey university, like all those girls meet guys in college like for sure this is going to be the time when I have my first boyfriend- and you know four years in university past and nada- nothing nope, no, not at all so yeah that kind of suck- and you know, during these time periods I would just feel an aching.

Loneliness I definitely thought something was wrong with me for the longest time, I blamed my skin, because I mean you can't really tell by oh good, but I have acne prone skin and so I would think like.

No one loves me or is going to like want to date me because of my skin, which is something I was bullied for when I was younger, I mean it wasn't serious um and so I literally have like diary entries with like dried tears, now I'm laughing about it.

But back then this was pretty traumatizing.

Okay and yeah.

I do remember, like literally sleeping in soaked pillows, because I would be crying myself to sleep thinking, I'd be forever alone and I would have like literally me, crying out to God, because I did have my faith like basically throughout my whole life growing up um, but it wasn't until I.

Think I was like 20 25 is 24 25, where I started to really dive deeper into my faith, and that is literally what brought me to here.

So anyways, um, yeah I, was kind of sad I.

Even would like lie about the fact that I've never been in a relationship like around my own friends, we'd be playing drinking games and it'd be like kay the person who was in a relationship the longest tast drink, and everyone would go around in a circle and say like oh, like two years a year and a half and then I'd get to me.

I'm, like oh yeah, I was only like a couple months in high school lies I, literally dated no one in high school.

So clearly, it was something that I was very ashamed of and, to be honest, putting this video on the internet and saying this for, like literally the whole world, is still pretty nerve-wracking but honestly, like I, just hate how society I can't keep blaming society, but literally you know, we've come too believe.

Most of us that are worth lies in our relationship and it doesn't like it literally doesn't there is nothing wrong with me and there is nothing wrong with you.

If you've never dated someone, in fact, it's actually been a huge blessing.

You got something that I've realized after kind of diving deeper into my face.

That's like me, diving, diving, deeper into my faith, is that it is a blessing God literally protected me from heartbreak, from pain, from stress from anxiety.

All of the things that come with relationships.

I know that there's like way more better things know like love and all that um.

But you know, I was never ready for a relationship in high school or university, or even my early 20s I was still super self-conscious.

I had like so many insecurities, I wasn't sure of Who.

I am what my purpose was.

What my passion was I was still discovering, who I was so if I was having to you know date, someone else and just deal with that as well.

It it wouldn't have ended well and I would have to deal with the the painful heartbreak that comes with a breakup, at least that's what my friends have told me so yeah.

So then, once I started to kind of explore my faith and stuff I came to understand, more of who God was and who I was to him and by the way, you too, whether you believe believe in and we're not.

You are loved.

You are literally the apple of God's eye.

You know whether you don't I was fortunate enough to have like amazing, loving parents and friends and family and I'm sure you do too, and even if you don't like, you are still loved, and that is I think the main message of this.

This rant, but I'm going on right now, but yeah I started to become more confident in who I was and who I was created to be, and my purpose on this earth and realizing that yeah God's got me and having hope for the future, knowing that he knows the desires of my heart and he will fulfill them and when you think about it, like you know, it's most people get married like say in their 20s 30s, and then they have like 30 40, 50, 60 I.

Don't how long you live yours to be in a relationship and to live your life with someone else.

But how many years do you really have to be a young single person? You know to be pretty much selfish and just work on yourself spend all of your time doing things that you love without caring about what another person wants to do or having to accommodate for another person.

You know this is the time to chase after your own dreams to try your own hobbies, whether they're, new or old.

You know take that top dancing class go to that workout class every single day and become the best version of yourself, and so that's kind of what the journey that I've been on for, like the past two or three years, literally just living my best life I've been kind of blessed to have complete peace with my season of singleness, but yet hope for the future and I just hope that you guys can get to that point too.

I know that it's not easy trust me I've been I've been in those little Pat's, especially now that you know the holidays are coming up.

I feel like that's what most people feel um the loneliness, the loneliness, the loneliest and yeah I.

Just hope that this video can can give you hope, and let you know that you're not alone.

If you have any questions or you want to talk, leave a comment.

Send me a message on Instagram, because I am there for you, you are beautiful, you are loved and God loves you thanks for watching this rant, bye.